Medary Max B, MD

Where to start… When he walked in the room, he immediately began by saying I was too young to be in his office (I am 31 and have 6 herniated discs). I agreed and tried to explain my situation. He briefly glanced at one portion of my mri results before saying that I shouldn’t have surgery, nor should I get an epidural even though I am in a great deal of pain, because it would make me gain weight «which you don’t need.» I explained to him that I have gained weight due to fertility treaments that I have been undergoing for the last 11 years my husband and I have been trying to conceive. I am currently recovering from my 9^th surgery for endometriosis and he said that I should «just get a hysterectomy already.» I had explained that we do have a son who is 4 and has autism. First he asked if my son was my biological child and when I told him he was adopted, he said «oh well if he didn’t have autism I am sure you would have been satisfied to just have him and wouldn’t still be trying to get pregnant, but you should still just stop trying.» Um, is he a reproductive specialist? Does he know enough of my history to be saying things like that? Wasn’t I there for a consult on my L5-​S1 herniation to see if I needed a fusion, not a discussion about my uterus? He ended the appointment telling me that I was just going to continue having back pain and that maybe eventually my back would get so bad it would just fuse itself. I left in tears. He was a total jerk. Unfortunately for him and his practice, I am married to a doctor and have since called the wife of the referring physician who I am friends with and let them know about my experience. I also am a part of a 5,000 member nationwide group of Doctor’s Wives who I could have shared a good review with but instead shared my negative experience (without posting his name). They were appalled as was I at the treatment I received in the 5 minutes of time he spent in the room with me. I can’t speak to his surgical skills but I wouldn’t let him near me with a scalpel if he can say such horrible things on my first visit to his office. It speaks to the kind of treatment I would get if there were ever an issue following a surgery there. He is condescending, flippant and the very reason surgeons get stereotyped as being jerks.